Let It Be Easy

Somewhere along the way, we learned that if something isn’t hard, it doesn’t count. That struggle equals worthiness. That success only matters if we suffer for it.

But what if that’s not true?
What if things could be easy?

We resist ease because we’ve been conditioned to believe that effort equals value—that if something comes naturally, we must not be trying hard enough. But what if the things meant for us don’t have to feel like an uphill battle?

Why We Make Things Harder Than They Need to Be

We don’t just accept difficulty—we chase it. But why?

  1. We equate struggle with success. If it’s hard, it must be important, right? Not necessarily. Sometimes, we make things complicated because we believe that’s the only way they’ll be valid.
  2. We’re addicted to proving ourselves. If something feels easy, we might worry that it shouldn’t be. That we need to work harder to deserve it.
  3. We assume ease means laziness. But ease isn’t about doing less—it’s about doing things differently.
  4. We ignore flow. Psychologists call it “flow state”—when you’re so engaged in something it feels effortless. When we resist ease, we ignore the things we’re naturally good at.

But things don’t have to be difficult to be valuable. In fact, sometimes the best things in life—love, creativity, opportunity—arrive when we stop forcing them.

How to Start Letting Things Be Easy

1. Question the "Hard Work" Narrative

Not everything worth having requires suffering. Working hard is valuable, but struggling for the sake of it is not.

💡 Try This: Next time you catch yourself thinking, This has to be hard for it to matter, ask, What if this could be easy?

2. Follow What Feels Natural

The things that come easily to you? They matter. You’re drawn to them for a reason. Instead of pushing against them, lean in.

💡 Try This: Make a list of things that feel natural and energizing for you. What if success came from doing more of those?

3. Stop Forcing What Doesn’t Work

Just because something is hard doesn’t mean it’s the right path. If something feels like you’re constantly fighting upstream, maybe it’s time to change course.

💡 Try This: Notice where things feel like a constant struggle in your life. Is there a way to approach them differently—or let them go?

4. Redefine What “Ease” Means

Easy doesn’t mean effortless. It means alignment. It means working with yourself, not against yourself.

💡 Try This: Instead of thinking, If it’s easy, it’s not real success, try, What if ease means I’m on the right path?

5. Trust That Ease Doesn’t Mean You’re Not Growing

You can be challenged without suffering. Growth doesn’t require burnout.

💡 Try This: Next time you feel guilt over something being “too easy,” remind yourself: ease doesn’t mean I’m not working—it means I’m working in the right direction.

Letting Things Be Easy Isn’t About Giving Up—It’s About Moving Forward

There’s a difference between hard work and unnecessary struggle. One moves you forward. The other wears you down.

Maybe the life you want doesn’t require you to push harder. Maybe it’s about allowing more ease, trusting your strengths, and letting go of the belief that struggle equals success.

So today, try asking: What if this could be easy?

Want to Dive Deeper? Here Are Three Books and TED Talks to Check Out

📖 Books to Read:

  1. The Joy of Missing Out – Tanya Dalton
    • A book about letting go of the pressure to do everything and embracing ease instead.
  2. Effortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most – Greg McKeown
    • A follow-up to Essentialism, this book is about how to stop overcomplicating your life.
  3. Untamed – Glennon Doyle
    • A powerful reminder that life doesn’t have to be lived according to rules that don’t serve us.

🎥 TED Talks to Watch:

  1. "The Art of Stress-Free Productivity" – David Allen
    • A talk on how simplifying your approach can make you more productive.
  2. "How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over" – Mel Robbins
    • A no-nonsense take on getting out of your own way.
  3. "The Unstoppable Power of Letting Go" – Jill Sherer Murray
    • A talk about how releasing control creates space for the right things to fall into place.

What’s something in your life that you could let be easier?

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