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The Archive · Page 2
The Lie of the Upgrade
At some point, we stopped fixing things and started upgrading them. Appliances. Relationships. Careers. Jeans. Phone models. Therapists. Marriages. Bras. Cities. Ourselves. Nothing is built...
What We Call Chaos Might Just Be Real Life
There’s a particular tone of voice people use when their life isn’t tidy.“I’m in a bit of a transition right now.”“It’s been chaotic lately, but...
The Myth of Balance (And Other Modern Lies)
Balance is the unicorn of midlife.You’re told to seek it. Honour it. Protect it.You’re also told to work hard, love deeply, stay informed, raise decent...
Why Are We All So Weird About Time?
Time used to feel like something you had.Now it feels like something you borrow. From your future self. On a payment plan. You hear it...
Everything Is a Bit Much, Isn’t It?
There are days when I feel completely fine. My hair does what it’s told. The emails get answered. No one asks me to download anything....
The Trouble With Clarity
Clarity is having a moment. It’s on coffee mugs, vision boards, and the breathy voiceovers of productivity influencers who claim to have discovered their “North...
The Thing I Didn’t Know I Missed
Field Notes from a Human Life I didn’t miss it until it came back. That’s the thing about certain pleasures. You don’t grieve them loudly....
How to Be Friends Again (With the People Who Knew You Before)
This post is part of The Midlife Syllabus—an ongoing series about the things we should’ve been taught but weren’t. The stuff that actually matters now....
No, You Don’t Need to Monetize That
Part of Unpolished Advice—occasional dispatches from a recovering perfectionist with strong opinions and limited patience for life hacks. You baked a beautiful loaf of sourdough.You...
How to Want Less Without Shrinking Your Life
This post is part of The Midlife Syllabus—an ongoing series about the things we should’ve been taught but weren’t. The stuff that actually matters now....